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How to Use a Dildo

Maicah LeeApril 18, 2021

If you are not sure how to use a dildo and have never used one before, you are not alone. Only 16% of sex toys sold worldwide are dildos.

But using a dildo is a great introduction to the wild and wonderful world of sex toys. They are available in an infinite number of sizes and shapes. Some are 9cm, bright purple, and curve at the end and some are 17cm and look realistic.

So if you are a beginner to dildo usage, the idea may excite you but it might also make you feel anxious and overwhelmed. What type of dildo is best for vaginal penetration? And do all dildos resemble a real penis?

We will answer all your burning questions.

This is a step-by-step guide to help beginners learn how to use a dildo in a safe and fun way.

Step 1: Choose the Right Dildo for You

First, you need to choose the right dildo to start with. The more you play with sex toys, the more you will discover which types give you the most sexual pleasure. But when exploring how to use a dildo, there are better types for beginners.

Check out our dildo reviews for brand and model recommendations.

When buying a new dildo, consider the following traits:

• Size
• Shape
• Material
• Color
• Extra functions (vibrating, etc.)

A dildo is a phallic-shaped sex toy, but that does not mean all dildos look like a realistic penis. Some have textures, curves, are double-ended, and vibrate.

The material of dildos is also varied. Silicone is a common and safe sex toy material, but glass, steel, and certain types of plastic are also options. Steer clear of PVC, jelly, and also latex if you have an allergy.

There are also different dildos designed for vaginal or anal dildo usage. For example, anal dildos need to have a base that stays outside the body for safety.

The best type of dildo for beginners is likely a smooth, silicone dildo in a fun color. Vibrating is also a great added extra, but not essential.

Step 2: Always Use Lubricant With Sex Toys

We care about sexual wellness and exploring sexuality in the safest way possible. So, we recommend always applying lubricant when using a dildo or any sex toy.

Not only will lubricant lower the risk of chafing or other injuries, but it will increase your sexual pleasure.

There are four main types of lubricants. These are:

• Water
• Oil
• Silicone
• Hybrid (mixture of the above)

Lubricants that offer sensations like heat and tingling are also available as well as ones that come in different flavors.

Water-based lubes are perfect for silicone sex toys and are a great general-use lubricant. This type of lubricant is also safe to use with latex and non-latex condoms.

Use as much lubricant as you like, the more the better if you are using an anal dildo.

Step 3: Start Small and Slow With Dildo Usage

The size of dildos varies from around 10cm to 25cm. Some fantasy dildos have an even bigger girth!

For beginners, it is best to start small and work your way up to bigger dildos if you discover you would like to try them. This is good advice for both vaginal and anal dildo usage.

Also, the last thing you want to do is penetrate yourself with a big dildo too fast. The experience might be enough to put yourself off dildos forever. Make sure you are as aroused as possible and be curious but cautious.

If you are new to using dildos, it is also a good idea to not use them many times every day. Even if you are getting a lot of enjoyment out of them (which is great!), your vagina or anus will soon become sore.

Step 4: Explore Using a Dildo in Different Positions

One of the main positives of using a dildo (or a sex toy in general) is that you are not limited by certain positions. Try out whatever stimulates your imagination!

Lying on your back is a great place to start. But you could also try dildo usage on all fours, lying on your front, standing up, or in the shower/bath. Some vibrating dildos are not waterproof, so double-check beforehand.

When you are ready to progress, you could try dildos with suction cups. That way, you can attach them to wooden floors, tiled floors, or even walls to use your dildo hands-free.

Explore any position you think might give you sexual pleasure.

If you are using a dildo for your vagina, you may also want to consider touching your clitoris at the same either with your fingers or another toy. It will increase your sexual pleasure and make you more likely to reach an orgasm.

Step 5: Invite a Partner (or Not!)

Once you have become comfortable using a dildo on your own, you may want to consider using it with your partner. It could heighten sexual pleasure for not only yourself but your partner too.

It is always important to discuss using sex toys beforehand rather than producing one during sex. Your partner will feel less intimidated and more likely to be open to using sex toys.

You could use a dildo for double penetration during sex or so you can experience penetration while performing oral sex. If you own a dildo that vibrates, you could use it for clitoral stimulation (if you have a vagina) while your partner penetrates you.

At the same time, it is natural if you would rather only use a dildo during masturbation. The most important thing is that you feel excited to use a dildo, not anxious or uncomfortable.

How to Use a Dildo in Five Easy Steps

If you have always wanted to learn how to use a dildo, this guide covers everything beginners need to know. Using a dildo may seem daunting at first but with the right toy and the right techniques, you will be thankful you took the leap.

You might start with dildo usage, but soon you will be exploring other ways to enhance your sexual pleasure!

Want to learn more about sexual health and taking care of your sex toys? Read our guide to learn how to clean and maintain your sex toys to keep the good times coming. You can also enjoy reading our infographic below: